Healing Your Relationships
Chronic illness brings changes and challenges to every relationship – your partner, children, parents, employer, friends, and even yourself. Your relationships can fracture or deepen depending on how you integrate illness into them.Sign Up Now
Learn to deepen your relationships through the unique changes and challenges that illness brings.
This virtual course begins November 9th, 2021.
When illness appears on the scene, every relationship you have undergoes some adjustments. You have to renegotiate household chores and responsibilities, income production, finances, emotional labor, and sexual relating with your partner. Parents and children face questions of independence and dependence and may conflict over how to handle the illness.
Your colleagues and employers likely won’t understand the changed situation that chronic illness brings, or its impacts on your time and energy and emotional resilience. Friends will want to support you but either won’t know how to do it or will be afraid to even offer.
Even your relationship with your self changes, as who were before your illness is not who you are now, or after.
These changes can feel like a threat to your relationships, but they don’t have to be.
Healing Your Relationships, our 6-week live, virtual course, will help you navigate these challenges so that your relationships deepen rather than fracture.
Focusing on illness as a path of growth can bring new ways to grow together and love more fully in all of your relationships, and it can teach you new and better ways to communicate your needs and your reality in ways that empower you.
This Course Will Help You:
- Identify the ways in which illness has affected your relationships with friends, significant others, work colleagues, medical providers, and even yourself
- Determine what aspects of your relationships could be improved or deepened
- Use boundaries to create mutually healthy and happy relationships
Learn how different worldviews affect people’s approach to illness
- Work to establish more rewarding relationships
- Use illness as a path for mutual growth and soul connection
This Course Is For:
- People who are struggling with changes in their roles and responsibilities
- People who want to deal with relational guilt, anger, fear of abandonment, and other emotions that are often sparked by illness
- People who find that illness interferes with their ability to communicate or be fully understood by others
- People who want their lives to be full of healthy interactions, love, and support
What you'll receive
— 6 modules packed with helpful ideas, questions, and practices.
— Multiple materials ranging from pdfs. to videos
— Links and referrals to helpful resources
— 6 live Zoom calls which feature both teaching and discussion, recorded and archived on the site
— A supportive group of participants to share with and learn from
Week 1: Overview. Illness and Relationship.
Week 2: Bridging Perspectives: The Integral Quadrants.
Week 3: Conflict and Healing across the Quadrants
Week 4: Bridging Perspectives: Stages of Development
Week 5: Conflict and Healing across the Stages
Week 6: The Integral We Space
Healing Your Relationships is part 3 of our 6-part Koan of Illness series.
Each of our live, 6-week, stand-alone courses addresses a part of the illness experience and is designed both for people suffering from chronic illness and caregivers. You can begin with any of the courses, pick and choose, or do them all.More info about the KOI Courses
The Koan Of Illness series
The Koan of Illness 1: Empowering Yourself
Does the complexity of chronic illness management overwhelm you? Do you struggle to navigate the paperwork, the emotions, the lifestyle changes that illness brings?
Everyone who deals with illness, whether patient, caregiver, provider, or administrator, deals with a complex mixture of personal, technical, institutional, and spiritual issues.
The Koan of Illness Part 2: Healing the Trauma
When you learn that illness is a part of your life and likely to be for some time, it is often a traumatic event. You may begin with denial and move through other stages such as anger or grief. You find that illness touches every aspect of your life – from your physical existence to your spirituality. Often it creates havoc with your relationships , your self-esteem, and your beliefs...
The Koan of Illness Part 3: Healing Your Relationships
Chronic illness brings changes and challenges to every relationship – your partner, children, parents, employer, friends, and even yourself. Your relationships can fracture or deepen depending on how you integrate illness into them.
The Koan of Illness Part 4: Illness as a Springboard for Personal Growth
Chronic illness can seem like a prison sentence, isolating you from life and taking away opportunities you might have had. However, illness is as valid a life path as any other, and, often, people with illness are able to use that difficulty to deepen their personal growth. In this course, we use the integral map to look at the process of individual growth...
The Koan of Illness Part 5: Chronic Illness and Spirituality
How does one find spirit in the midst of pain and loss? How can illness offer opportunities for spiritual growth? In this course, we use the integral map to look at the spiritual aspects of illness and explore how illness offers a path to awakening and an opportunity to develop spiritual intelligence.
The Koan of Illness Part 6: Integration: A New Vision for Healing
How can I create a personal plan for growth in the midst of the complexity that is illness and personal development?
How can I relate to the systems in which I have to operate?
What are my Koans?
Dr. Lynn Royster Fuentes
Lynn is a college instructor, educational course designer, and a mediator with a BA, MA, JD, and PhD. An experienced classroom and online instructor, she has designed and taught courses in transpersonal psychology, writing, planning, chronic illness, and conflict management at DePaul University, where she also founded and directed the Chronic Illness Initiative, a program to help students with chronic illness obtain a degree.
A devoted student of Ken Wilber and integral philosophy, she has published integrally oriented essays and articles on conflict resolution and illness management and weaves integral ideas into her course design and teaching. She follows an integral life practice of physical, psychological, meditative, and cognitive development.
Lynn has volunteered in many capacities – with battered women, people in the recovery community, and people with chronic illness – and served on the board of the Solve ME/CFS Association of America for many years. Despite her study of many disciplines, Lynn regards her greatest learning as long-term caregiver for severely ill family members.